I have met mine we are close but live apart as he is married and we have a 7 year old daughter together!
How complicated is that to start off with! As we have a link for our daughter and he sees her once a week, at times he will project his negativity onto me and also I feel like he is next door in the other room, so I am hearing and feeling all the good stuff and also the negative stuff. Sometimes I don’t know if what I am feeling is mine or his!? And maybe there is very little I can do about it, but accept and learn how to recognise what is his stuff. It’s too close for comfort and last time I did get suffocated and had a meltdown, it was all too much for me.